Why is it hard to forgive

Often at times we find ourselves in situations that are very hard to  comprehend and even rationalize. Things go haywire and unplanned specially when someone so close to us go beyond our wildest imaginations to do something that we had never expected of them. I do not want to be specific here with examples but I am sure you understand what I am talking about, like you know someone letting you down.

So the thing is that they crossed the line, and here we are pondering upon the implications, musings arise within us thinking about how we would never had done the same to them and time and again of how they let us down. That’s the thing with thoughts, the more you feed them the more they grow. The seed of hatred once sprouted, keeps on growing for a long time unless it is tended for.

Let us now come to the point so as to why it is so very difficult to forgive. I think part of the reason why it is difficult to forgive is that we value ourselves too much. We tend to shadow others within our perception and tend to mistake our existence as the most supreme one.. “How dare they?” we often tend to think upon coming up with such misfortune.

The understanding of the universe, accepting coexistence and even merely treating others with love and compassion can bring up a spark of forgiveness within you. Embracing the whole as one, and not merely limiting yourself simply to your life form and physical restrictions can help understand better the bigger truth.

This realization can fuel up compassion and forgiveness for all.. “for they do not know they have sinned” true love for all beings can help assimilate any confusion regarding the intention of others. “You forgive only to the extent that you love” The greatest gift that we can ever give someone is forgiveness. It is only by forgiving that the vicious cycle of revenge and counter attacks come to an end, else the chakra goes on and on engraving deeper every lap that it completes.

This understanding of a true being leads to mokshya, the utter realization. Life is in the simple things after all is it not? :) So in your everyday life look for the subtle things, how easily you are annoyed, or even how hard it is to forgive. It is the simple and small things that relate to all other big and enormous things, it is only by drops that an ocean is made, there is no other way.

Forgiving is a choice, what do you choose??

I would indeed enjoy reading from you in the comments, do drop in your queries. :)

Why do you think it is so hard to forgive??
Have a wonderful day ahead.